CAREFUL! Sexy Silver Senior unleashed!


Photo: Beate Pilgreen

Old, Old, Old! There's always a lot of talk about old age combined with the word Sex-Appeal - or rather - that supposed lack of it - as if the two can't be together on the same page - or in life for that matter. If you are actually old, or as the more polite version goes, "older" (to which I always say" "older than what?"), there comes a point of enormous, happiness-inducing acceptance of that fact, that simply makes you smile wickedly and with a certain triumph. You nod your head in acknowledgement, without a shred of embarrassment or despair. "Yep, that's me", you say to the critical onlookers who always have something completely superfluous and uninspiring to blabber as if anybody has asked them - "any problems? If yes, get the f#ck out of my face and my life!"

The very idea of having to look "hot" and "sexy" around the clock ist really boring and tiresome for me. Sexiness is a state of mind not age. Some men get really hot under the collar when looking at my generation, like Helen Mirren who is, after all, 69 years old and I have 2 male friends who really think that Meryl Streep (66) is the sexiest creature around and that Susan Sarandon (69) can give an awful lot of desperate young wannabees a run for their money. So, sexiness, or the lack thereof, can't have something to do with whether a woman has sagging skin, a few charming wrinkles here and there, and gray hair or not.

OK, onto a recent line of events. So I have a new friend, the talented and fabulous "Boudoir" Photographer Beate Pilgreen 
To be honest, I didn't really know that genre very well and hadn't secretly dreamt about competing with Dita von Teese, a raven-haired "Burlesque"-queen who jumps in and out of large Martini glasses, scantily clad.

But here we were, discussing a possible shoot with me playing the silvery old sex-cat (kitten would be too much of an euphemism). Loved the idea. I'm all for fantasy, fun and sassiness. I'm pretty easygoing with undressing  - after all I'm European and a former hippie and model of the Sixties where clothes were optional. 

Before (1968)

But in this case total nudity was out; I thought that maybe I get away with net stockings, a little top, a black jacket, REAL high stilettos (which I borrowed from Beate, I don't own stuff like that!) and some fabric decorated around me. With it came red lips, too much mascara and natural hair, no big deal.

After
Photo: Beate Pilgreen

Beate and I had a blast. She is the perfect photographer, not intrusive, she doesn't shout: "Yes, smile! Great! Lift you Ass! More Tits!" like the narcissistic photogs in the movies, and I think we didn't have Disco-Music in the background. I posed on her velvety red couch like a brothel chick thinking that having done a bit of yoga and gymnastics for the last 35 years is really good for a lot of things.

The results were stunning if I may say so. We all have so many different faces, bodies and identities, and it's fun to let them out of prison once in a while. And since this is a blog about "empowerment" (how I love that expression :-)) that mixes worldly philosophies with a soupcon of advice from an experienced international toughie (that would be me) this is what I advise:
If you feel old, blue or boring, or if you feel adventurous and sassy, if you got rid of a man who wronged you, or have a new boyfriend, or want to suprise an old spouse who takes you for granted - or if there is just you, a playful woman of "a certain age", call Beate or just get undressed a bit in front of your iPhone.

Here a new piece I wrote for Huffpost50 in February - same story, different angles!! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sabine-reichel/silver-haired-pinup_b_9190310.html

https://www.facebook.com/silberfuchssociety/?ref=hl
"F#CK BEAUTY DUTY"
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Comments

  1. Too cute ....Wish I could do that and post it...

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  2. Love that you did the photo shoot, and yes you are soooo right,.. on our good day's if we feel like looking sexy we still can and it is not all about skin. You article is right on Sabine love the way you look at the age over 60 and being silver. You are absolutely gorgeous.
    Ingrid

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  3. Beautifully put! May I share your post?

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  4. Hi Ben, of course you can.I want you to! Thanks!!

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  5. lovely photo and lovely attitude ... I did a photo shoot once when I was feeling oh so sexy and it really shows in the photo and is inspiring for ever ... I look at it every now and then and get a surge of empowerment .

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  6. Bini, love your choice of words. It is a treat to read your articles. Alone your skillfull writing is super sexy; it reveals a positive, playful attitude mixed with earned wisdom, sharp intelligence, keen sense of humor, smart points of view, blunt honesty, and compassion for the human condition. Besides , of course, the pics are great - as always. You are amazing and an inspiration to your many fans !!

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    1. Thank you so much whoever you are! Very charming letter.

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  7. Great post! Love the photos and your writing. I'm 72 and enjoying the ride!

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    1. Thanks. Happy you're enjoying the ride - as you and we all should. Keep on enjoying and inspiring the ones around us. They sure could need it!! Sabine

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  8. Oh me oh my oh! I've been stomping around Southern California, just turned 62, shopping at thrift shops and trying to find a wee bit of grey hair inspiration. Most senior blogs are all about covering wrinkles and shopping at Chicos. No effing way! Soooooo happy to have found you!!!

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    1. Hi Connie - I've mailed you - don't know whether that address worked. Anyway, thanks a lot for your very nice comment. Lovely. I can see that there are a lot of us. Did you "befriend me? You should. I have lot of new stuff you might like. Maybe we should meet? Best, Sabine

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  9. Absolutely fabulous! What a beautiful woman you are...no doubt inside as well as out...and STILL KICKIN'.
    Know that there are many of us who have chosen to leave the U.S. and are thriving in other cultures where, believe me, age is no barrier!

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    1. Hi Christine - thank you so much. Well, inside I'm a bit harsher and critical, actually - there's beauty in that, too, of course! Check out this link. Ari Cohen of "Advanced Style" did some pix and interviews with me. http://advancedstyle.blogspot.com. Best, Sabine

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  10. Thrilled to have found you (through Ari Seth) ... I am turning 75 in September, have silvery white hair which is close to shoulder length. I have an ongoing battle with myself ~ cut it off or let it grow! You, Ms. Sabine, have made up my mind for me! Looking forward to more from gorgeous you!!

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  11. love your blog, love you! you look like Stevie Nicks in this photo! I can only wish my silver gift will be as pretty as yours!
    ~Sandy

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  12. Fun! I totally agree with the idiocy of thinking one must be sexy all the time. That's a bunch of advertising hype to sell things. However, it can be fun when it's time, right? Your picture is wonderful and so is your attitude and commentary. XO

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